How can you create a comfortable space to start a difficult conversation with your roommate or best friend about their drinking?
What should I do? I’ve tried to talk to them but they just get angry or upset with me. I don’t know how long I can put up with the late nights, loud music, and inviting “questionable” people over. I really care about them.
Before you can jump in and start talking to your friend about their drinking habits, it’s important to understand your personal point of view on alcohol.
- What are some stressors you experienced in your youth?
- How do you handle these stressors?
- What are your current thoughts or opinions on alcohol?
- What/Who do you think influences you to have these thoughts or opinions?
It’s important to take the time to complete a self-assessment and understand your own point of view first. Often how we think, feel, or view something can affect what we say and how we say it to others.
Tips for creating a comfortable space to start a difficult conversation:
- Play games, sit on a couch side-by-side (car rides can be a great safe place)
- Drop the agenda and listen
- Be honest, open and respectful and open
- Ask questions and let them lead the conversation